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Brian Tracy, the acclaimed business success and personal development guru, says that the ability to concentrate single-mindedly on your most important task, to do it well, and to finish it completely is the key to great success, achievement, respect, status, and happiness in life.
THE KEY TO SUCCESS, ACHIEVEMENT, RESPECT, STATUS, AND HAPPINESS IN LIFE
Concentrating Single-Mindedly on Your Most Important Task
Doing it Well
Finishing it Completely Before Moving on To Another Task – Brian Tracy, Eat That Frog
In his book, Eat That Frog!, Mr. Tracy lays out the 21 most powerful personal effective techniques to keep you focused upon and in line with the above ideas. Eat That Frog! is a quick yet great read that will open your mind and will unquestionably enhance your effectiveness in every area of your life.
If you have not read Eat That Frog!, you should do so immediately. If you have read it, you should do so again.
The faster you learn and apply the well-explained techniques in this book, the faster you will get ahead in every area of your life, and the sooner you will accomplish your purpose in Life.
Here is a great link to give you an overview of what you will find in Eat That Frog!. But don’t settle for just the summary, get Mr. Tracy’s book, read it, read it again, and apply it to every area of your life. Then read it again.
I guarantee you will be happy you did.
From my heart to yours,
The Partial Advice
We often hear the advice given to career seekers: “Do what you love” or “follow your passion.”
This is good advice, as far as it goes. It is terrible advice, however, for both what it omits and the huge caveat it fails to mention.
“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” – Confucius
So why should we be cautious of the advice to “do what you love”? Because we often aren’t clear on the one thing we truly love. As humans, we often deceive ourselves. When I try to focus on “what I Love” or “what I am passionate about,” I can think of dozens of things I love to do without breaking a sweat.
So now I still haven’t narrowed it down, but I realize it isn’t what I am doing. If I was able to narrow my passion down to a single item, I still have to know I am capable of monetizing it (if the goal is to “do what I am passionate about,” as a job, I am going to need to be able to make a living at it, correct?)
The Full Advice
While it is critical to do something you love and have a passion for, the full advice that should be given to career seekers has three parts:
- Do something you are passionate about; and
- Do something you are good at; and
- Do something you will work hard at.
The way to discover which path will lead to all three of these things is to analyze what you spend your time on. Time is the one resource that is a constant for every single person on this planet. Rich people don’t get more of it. You don’t get less opportunities for time if your country is poor or you are born into the wrong caste. Time is not subject to the whims of inflation, the foreign exchange rate, or interest rates. No matter what religion, ethnic group, gender, or political party you belong to – you receive the same 24 hours per day that every other person receives.
We all are going to die eventually. And we all know it. Each 24 hours brings us one day closer to the day we will die. We don’t get to choose the day we will die – but we absolutely do get to decide whether we will LIVE before that day rolls around! We exchange each 24 hours for one day of our life . . . whether we spent that day doing something we love, or with people we love – or as slave to the grind just making ends meet and wishing for the weekend.
We don’t get to choose the day we will die – but we absolutely do get to decide whether we will LIVE before that day rolls around!
Some people with the greatest faith have found themselves in the latter situation and simply quit, trusting in God that He would provide another job for them doing something they love. The problem is: a year or two into the new job, the person sometimes realizes that this is not their “Great Passion.”
The way to avoid all of this is not to “follow your passion” or “do what you love.” Instead “follow what you do with your time.” That is what you actually love. What you spend time at, you will become better at. As you become better, you will enjoy it more and more. This in turn, will tend to make you love it. As your passion grows, you will work hard to become better. This will cause you to enjoy it even more.
And so on.
Ultimately, getting “stuck” in an endless loop like that. . . isn’t a bad way to spend your Life!
To finding the Time of your Life,
In his 21 Suggestions for Success, H. Jackson Brown, Jr. declares as number one: “Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.”
“Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Why we don’t pay this more attention is beyond me. It should be taught to us in school. Required to be memorized before a marriage license is issued. Printed in large letters at any facility where one might go on a date. It probably should be read to us in the womb.
The only question I have with regard to the veracity of Mr. Brown’s First Success Suggestion . . . is whether his affixed percentage is high enough.
Readers of The Prefixed Life know that we preach about how to make significant changes in life, we must accept 100% responsibility for each area of our life: For our job, where we live, our income level, physical health, etc. But are we really 100% responsible for our Love Life?
What if I am living some place where it is not just a funny saying, but in truth there simply are no ‘good men’ left? Or, perhaps my ex-girlfriend went psycho and slept with every single guy at the bar one night because I implied she wasn’t a good reader? Or maybe my spouse and I argue every single night? Am I really responsible for another person, even when they act irresponsibly? Even if I check with my friends and my therapist and even my lawyer . . .and they all agree I am behaving perfectly while my partner . . . is clearly the one who is mostly at fault? Even then?
Well, no, of course. You cannot control how another person acts. Nor should you — even if you possessed that power.
So accepting 100% responsibility might not ‘technically’ be completely accurate.
But failing to accept 100% responsibility for your love life will almost certainly result in you spending months, if not years, in maintaining romantic relationships that ultimately fail. But that never happens in a vacuum. Those fleeting, ephemeral, unsatisfying relationships bring with them immense amounts of fear, pain, rejection, heartbreak, yelling, regret and left-upright toilet seats.
And all in exchange for what? Not much, in truth. Not in the long run.
Accepting 100% responsibility for your love life will have you weed those potential partners out quickly. Often in a single date. Accepting 100% responsibility will keep you in a space where whenever Prince or Princess Charming walks into your life – and it will not be long after you take full control of this area of your life — you will know it immediately and can start planning your fulfilling life together.
Don’t believe it?
Fine. Look, you can read this article and go right back to lying to yourself . . . if that’s what you want to do. But…wouldn’t it be a whole lot easier to simply admit something is jacked up in your Love Life, figure out what it is, fix it, and find the man or woman of your dreams?!?
And no, I am not talking about “someone who completes you.” That line from Jerry Macguire, complete with the music and emotional anchoring, did no favors to anyone who is single.
You know this. You have always known this: No human relationship that rests on “being completed” is EVER going to work. . . only God makes those relationships work — and look at the headaches He has getting us to buy in to surrendering to that kind of relationship.
NO! You must accept 100% responsibility for your life SO you may become complete! Once you do that, the right person will walk into your life. The perfect person for you. The one with whom you can celebrate your completeness together! Doesn’t that sound a lot more fun and fulfilling? Find the One with whom you can celebrate your completeness together!
You must be complete. NOT perfect! Complete. Anything less will doom your relationship with another human before it even begins. Be clear on that.
And, yes, once you accept this Truth and make a 100% personal commitment that nothing less is acceptable, that you will do whatever it takes to get to that place . . . once we let go of the ridiculous cattle-excrement-laden stories we tell ourselves, our lives begin to change at ludicrous speed.
It is is certainly easy to blame.
It is is certainly easy to blame. Our society practically conditions us out of the womb to learn how to blame others. And how could we not follow this conditioning? We still consider ourselves a “Christian nation’ here in the U.S. Look at the central role blame takes and how heavily it factors into the very first story we read in Christendom, where after taking the forbidden fruit and being confronted by God about it, Adam manages to blame both Eve and God by suggesting the fault was properly attributed to, “that woman You gave me.” Eve, in turn, tried to roll over on the serpent as the primary cause for the appearance on Earth of ‘sin’ and disobedience.
And yet, we usually smirk as we read the Genesis account. Neither Adam’s nor Eve’s feeble attempt to place the blame elsewhere seems particularly credible to us. Is it possible that attempting to blame someone or something else ALWAYS comes across as ridiculous and ALWAYS makes us look exceedingly foolish?
Perhaps after this many years since Adam and Eve it is time for us humans to grow a little bit, evolve if you will, and mature as a species?
We all know, deep down, that all blame really does is keep us mired in mediocrity. We all know that. Why are we so adamant that we wish to continue sucking? Is our pride and ego really that fragile?
Okay. Fine. I am in. Where do I begin?
I admit I am 100% responsible and accept 100% responsibility for my Love Life!
(Click here for Part II of this post)
The Chinese teacher and philosopher, K’ung Fu-tzu, or as we say in the West, Confucius, lived from 551–479 BC. Although Confucius understood that perfectionism was impossible in an individual’s life, he believed that a society could become near perfect if its people embraced “beautiful conduct” towards each other. Confucius taught five fundamental ideas about how we should treat others:
- Always be considerate to others.
- Respect your ancestors.
- Try for harmony and balance in all things.
- Avoid extremes in behavior and emotion.
- If you live in peace and harmony, including with nature, then you are a spiritual person.
Confucius also promulgated five basic virtues which to which he believed each human should strive:
1) Kindness; 2) Righteousness; 3) Sobriety; 4) Wisdom; and 5) Trustworthiness.
Confucius taught that your well-being depends directly on the well-being of others. He called this principle Jen. Jen means always affording courtesy and loyalty to others. Confucius believed in the importance of relationships, personal and governmental morality, justice for all, and being sincere in all of one’s dealings.
One of his most fundamental ideas was the teaching that every person should cherish the aspiration to become a “superior man.” By this term, Confucius did not mean “perfect.” He meant superior to others, if possible, but mostly he thought it was critical that we all strive to become superior to the person we used to be yesterday and continue that personal growth throughout our lives. The desire to excel, he believed, universally appeals to all humans and when properly nourished becomes the foundational method for living a great life, possessing transforming power, and a key to having compelling vigor for living life.
Confucius often proffered the attributes of the ‘superior man’ in the form of brief sayings (and no, not bundled inside of fortune cookies). He encouraged his followers to admire these sayings without ceasing, to emulate them without turning, and to imitate them without hindrance. We have placed a few of these below for your consideration.
Confucius’ highest ideal, what he says each human should strive for, is that person’s own improvement. He promotes personal development as a task at which we must never cease so we may “abide in the highest excellence.” According to Confucius, this goal of lifetime personal development, while impossible in the absolute, must always be kept prominently in mind so that we may become the best of which we are capable of being. Confucius claims that if we make a firm commitment to do so that we immediately attain unperturbed resolve; which leads to tranquil poise; that poise results in deliberate care; and such care will lead us to achieving the goal of becoming the person we are designed to become.
We would all do well to pick out the sayings of Confucius that resonate with us, print them out and hang them in our home or office, and meditate upon them for a few minutes each day. Or, as Uncle Ralph encouraged: “Make your own Bible. Select and collect all the words and sentences that in all your readings have been to you like the blast of a trumpet.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
The Art of Living. “The practice of right-living is deemed the highest, the practice of any other art lower. Complete virtue takes first place; the doing of anything else whatsoever is subordinate.” (Li Ki, bk. xvii., sect. iii., 5.)
Personal Growth: “The progress of the superior man is upward, the progress of the ordinary man is downward.” (Analects, bk. xiv., c. xxiv.) “The superior man is distressed by his want of ability; he is not distressed by men’s not knowing him.” (Analects, bk. xv., c. xviii.)
Life Purpose: “The superior man learns in order to attain to the utmost of his principles.” (Analects, bk. xix., c. vii.)
Veracity: “What the superior man requires is that in what he says there may be nothing inaccurate.” (Analects, bk. xiii., c. iii., v. 7.) “The object of the superior man is truth.” (Analects, bk. xv., c. xxxi.) “The superior man is anxious lest he should not get truth; he is not anxious lest poverty come upon him.” (Analects, bk. xv., c. xxxi.)
Personal Integrity: “The superior man must be watchful over himself when alone.” (Great Learning, vi., 2.)
Being Sincere: “Is it not his absolute sincerity which distinguishes a superior man?” (Doctrine of the Mean, c. xiii., 4.) “The superior man must make his thoughts sincere.” (Great Learning, vi., 4.) “The superior man wishes to be slow in his words and earnest in his conduct.” (Analects, bk. iv., c. xxiv.)
Internal Frame of Reference (or Inner Locus of Control): “What the superior man seeks, is in himself; what the ordinary man seeks, is in others.” (Analects, bk. xv., c. xx.) The superior man in the world does not set his mind either for anything or against anything; what is right, he will follow.” (Analects, bk. iv., c. x.)
Confidence: “When internal examination discovers nothing wrong, what is there to be anxious about, what is there to fear?” (Analects, bk. xi., c. iv., v. 3.)”The superior man is satisfied and composed; the ordinary man is always full of distress.” (Analects, bk. vii., c. xxxvi.) “The superior man may indeed have to endure want; but the ordinary man, when he is in want, gives way to unbridled license.” (Analects, bk. xv., c. i., v. 3.)
Courage: “The superior man has neither anxiety nor fear.” (Analects, bk. xii., c. iv., v. i.)
Ethics: “The superior man thinks of virtue; the ordinary man thinks of comfort.” (Analects, bk. iv., c. xi.) ” The mind of the superior man is conversant with righteousness; the mind of the ordinary man is conversant with gain.” (Analects, bk. iv., c. xxi.) ” The superior man in all things considers righteousness essential.” (Analects, bk. xv., c. xvii.)
Decisiveness: “Refusing to surrender their wills or to submit to any taint to their persons.” (Analects, bk. xviii., c. viii., v. 2.) “The superior man is correctly firm and not merely firm.” (Analects, bk. xv., c. xxxvi.) “Looked at from a distance, he appears stern; when approached, he is mild; when he is heard to speak, his language is firm and decided.” (Analects, bk. xix., c. ix.)
Humbleness: “The superior man is affable but not adulatory; the ordinary man is adulatory but not affable.” (Analects, bk. xiii., c. xxiii.)
Propensity for Good: “The superior man seeks to develop the admirable qualities of men and does not seek to develop their evil qualities. The ordinary man does the opposite of this.” (Analects, bk. xii., c. xvi.) “To be able to judge others by what is in ourselves, this may be called the art of virtue.” (Analects, bk. vi., c. xxviii., v. 3.)
Poise: “The superior man in his thought does not go out of his place.” (Analects, bk. xiv., c. xxviii.)
Thoroughness: “The superior man in everything puts forth his utmost endeavors.” (Great Learning, ii., 4.)
Attentiveness: “The superior man bends his attention to what is radical. That being established, all practical courses naturally grow up.” (Analects, bk. i., c. ii., v. 2.)
Dignity: “The superior man has dignified ease without pride; the ordinary man has pride without dignified ease.” (Analects, bk. xiii., c. xxvi.) “The superior man is dignified and does not wrangle.” (Analects, bk. xv., c. xxi.)
Praising Others: “The superior man honors talent and virtue and bears with all. He praises the good and pities the incompetent.” (Analects, bk. xix., c. iii.) “The superior man does not promote a man on account of his words, nor does he put aside good words on account of the man.” (Analects, bk. xv., c. xxii.)
Adherence to the Golden Rule: “What you do not want done to yourself, do not do unto others.” (Doctrine of the Mean, c. xiii., v. 3.)
From my heart to yours,
Are you frustrated with your life? Are you tired of being unsatisfied, of struggling to make ends meet, the pain of a failed relationship, or ill-health? Why does it seem others live in abundance, but abundance fails to describe any area of your life? Have you given up on the vision you once had for your life?
What would you give to have your life instantly changed and to know you were on the path that would inevitably lead to all your hopes and dreams coming true?
What if you had to give almost nothing except a few minutes of your time each day?
Would you do it?
Here is the secret: Take a few minutes to reflect back on the dreams and desires you have given up on. Or think of new dreams, if you prefer. Clearly visualize the life of your dreams. Do NOT worry about the vision “being realistic.” Don’t let your past failures or limitations derail this image. Just take as long as it takes for you to visualize your “Perfect Life” — whatever that means to you.
Do you have that visualized? Or are you just continuing to read? What if the secret really is contained here? Are you so confident it is not, that you won’t take five minutes and think of your “Perfect Life”?
Good. Now make it sharper, clearer, more real. How would it look? How would you feel? What smells would be in your Perfect Life?
Once you have your “Perfect Life” firmly fixed in your mind, spend one or two more minutes to think of the person who you would be if you were living that life. How would you feel? How would you treat others? How would you carry yourself? What kind of car would you drive? How would you dress? Where would you live? How would you feel?
Let these emotions flow through you. If your posture tries to correct itself, allow it to do so. Take a couple of deep breaths.
Now intensify the feelings and emotions flowing through you.
Now, look at that amplified vision. How do you think of yourself? As you look at that “Highest Version of You” — the version of you if you were already living the Life of Your Dreams — ask yourself what would happen if you lived that thought every day from now on? What would you think? What would you speak? What would you say? How would you behave? What actions would you take? How would you treat the people in your life?
Is there a difference between the Highest Version of You and how you think, speak and behave now?
If your answer is yes; see and remember the differences . . . and consciously begin to change. Do this exercise once or twice a day and think, speak, and act like your Highest Self whenever you think of it during the day.
If you do not give up, you will see changes that will boggle your mind in less than 30 days. One month from today, keep doing this, and add an additional daily session. Focus on hourly checking in with yourself and determining if you are living as your hightest self. Don’t get frustrated if you failed in the past hour. Just get back on the wagon.
Ninety days from now your friends and family will all be amazed and will notice and comment upon the distinct change in just about every part of your life. Continue making this a priority, examining your thoughts and actions minute-by-minute. It should be almost second nature to you now. Think of how good that will make you feel. Think of how much you will be respected and admired. Visualize how much good you can do for your family, your community, your religion, and your favorite charity. Or, perhaps, you will have already taken steps to create your own charity.
Well before a full calendar year from now, you will barely recognize the person you have become.
It is impossible to follow this formula and not have achieved your dream life within five years.
Do it. Live your dreams. Accept the Life of Abundance that you have been promised. It is your birthright.
To your grandest vision,
Yes, I am sure there must be a great lawyer joke in this post’s title. But it is not a joke. So focus.
Question: Which one, attorney or wolf, left unchecked, is most dangerous? Are you focused on that?
What if both were inside your head? Focus on which would be most dangerous then.
How about two of each inside your head?!? Two attorneys and two wolves.
You must have a gigantic noggin for us to have stuffed all that inside! But that’s not the point. In this post we are focused on . . .
Alan Cohen, the author of Why Your Life Sucks And What You Can Do About It (awesome and hilarious book in the event you have not read it), writes:
“Imagine two lawyers in a courtroom inside your head. One is arguing for your possibilities and you achieving your goals. The other is arguing for your limits and why you don’t deserve what you want. Who will win?
The lawyer whom you pay the most.
The way you pay these lawyers, however, is not with money; it is with your attention.”
* * *
“One evening a Cherokee elder told his grandson about the battle that goes on inside of people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between the two ‘wolves’ that live inside us all. One is Unhappiness. It is fear, worry, anger, jealousy, sorrow, self-pity, resentment, and inferiority.
The other is Happiness. It is joy, love, hope, serenity, kindness, generosity, truth, and compassion.’
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, ‘Which wolf wins?’
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.’”
So, what are you focusing on? Whatever it is, it merits 100% of your focus. Do you want that to be thoughts of who you could be? Your goals and ambitions? And how you will achieve them? Ultimately, how you will spread your Love and make the world a better place?
Or do you want to continue focusing on your fears? Your past failures? Your regrets? And how nothing you do matters? Or how it won’t work out anyway?
THE CHOICE IS YOURS AND YOURS ALONE. BUT THE RESULT IS GUARANTEED.
Your Life is 100% guaranteed to follow your thoughts. As we have discussed before, God is THE Creator, but He has entrusted you and me with the power to create, as well. And we create with our thoughts.
Want to explode into the life of which you have always dreamed? It is 100% guaranteed to happen if you dwell on nothing but those thoughts.
If you instead wish to stay mired in a failed relationship, a business failure, a poor childhood, or any other negative portion of your past, simply allow your mind to concentrate on those things. You are 100% guaranteed to repeat them.
THE CHOICE IS YOURS AND YOURS ALONE. BUT THE RESULT IS GUARANTEED.
Pay attention to whatever it is you are doing. Love and feel how alive you are when you are 100% focused and completely engaged in it. Complete it. Then, and only then, move your energy and mind 100% to the next item.
Alan Cohen quarterbacks us on the game-winning drive with this analogy: “Your real enemies are the self-defeating thoughts, paltry expectations, and beliefs that you must live at less than full throttle. You will experience as much pain as you are willing to accept. You do have control over how much you hurt. Pain happens; suffering is optional. You can choose thoughts that bring you relief rather than imprisonment. To find your freedom, stand at the doorway of your mind and monitor your thoughts. Notice which ones lift you and which ones drag you down. Then, like a bouncer at an exclusive party, admit only those on the invitation list and send the others back where they came from. Fate is not a net cast over you by capricious fortune; it is a garden you cultivate by the thoughts you attend to. Shift your attention and you will shift your life.”
Brian Johnson’s reflection on the above: “LOVE that image of a bouncer at the doorway of your mind! How AWESOME is that? 🙂 We talk about this All. The. Time. For good reason: It’s the key to your happiness. So, get your big bad bouncer self rockin’ that velvet thought rope, will ya?! Challenge your negative thoughts. Don’t let them crash your party.
“So get your big bad bouncer self rockin’ that velvet thought rope, will ya?!” – Brian Johnson, Chief Philosopher
“So get your big bad bouncer self rockin’ that velvet thought rope, will ya?!”
Did the Chief Philosopher really just write that?!?
A few more Alan Cohen quotes that I love in closing:
“Your life is not what the stars, numbers, genetics, environment, politics, or economic conditions make it; it is what you make it. External variables influence, but internal variables determine.”
“Your true strength resides in holding your power in the midst of those who have abdicated theirs.”
“When you fall in love with yourself, you will be irresistible to everyone else. When you find your beloved inside you, you will find your beloved beside you.” – Alan Cohen
Quotations above by Alan Cohen. Find him at www.AlanCohen.com
If you could do anything you wanted to in life without limitations. With no chance of failure. What would you do?
Seriously, take a minute and think about it. What would you do?
What if you could do anything? What would you do?
You know that the ONLY thing stopping you is fear. You know that, right?
Just go do it.
Our Life Formula can be stated like this (I may be mistaken, but believe we owe this to Jack Canfield)
E + R = O
E + R = O
Which stands for: Events + Response = Outcome
Events + Response = Outcome
If you are unhappy with the OUTCOME of your life, then change it!
Change the one and only thing we can change as humans: Our response.
If life has given you this equation: 2 + 5 = 7;
You cannot change the 2, but we can always change the 5. If you do not like 7, change your response! Oh, and by the way…everyone has the 2. So you can either get busy or sit around complaining.
AM I GOING TO BE A GAME-CHANGER, OR A DRIFTER? Only I can decide if I want to drift along, accept whatever happens, and be angry or depressed about it. But no one wants to live their life having people be sorry for them. The only alternative is to become a game-changer and create the Life you want.
Look inside and TRULY DECIDE what I want from this life. This is not a dress rehearsal. Your time on this planet is getting shorter.
What am I willing to do to get where I want to go?
Michael Jordan did not make his high school basketball team. Now he has six world championship NBA basketball rings, is generally acknowledged as the greatest player ever, and is a multi-millionaire.
Air Jordan could have easily let his high school coach’s decision to not put Mike on the team stop him from pursuing his dream. But he would not let fear come between him and basketball.
Picture yourself on a quarter-mile track and remember: Life is not a sprint. It is a marathon. Just keep putting one-step in front of the other. ANYTHING is possible if you just make a daily effort to attain it. A daily consistent yeomen’s effort is always better than a herculean but irregular effort.
Look inside and TRULY DECIDE, right now, the course of your life. If you are willing to do what it takes; you have already assured yourself of success the moment you make a 100% commitment to it.
From my heart to yours,
A nuclear chain reaction generates vast quantities of energy. Controlled nuclear reactions (i.e. energy plant, ship propulsion) create tremendous power used for great social good. Uncontrolled reactions (nuclear weapons, Chernobyl, Fukushima Daiichi) produce indescribable wreckage and desolation.
Human feelings are like nuclear chain reactions. Our feelings are vast storehouses of potential energy. Feelings have the capacity to stop us in our tracks and mire us in depression . . . or catapult us to accomplish our wildest goals and most daring dreams. Like a chain reaction, feelings can be either controlled or uncontrolled. Positive feelings are the result of managing and exercising control over our feelings. Unchecked and misdirected feelings tend to replicate exponentially. Left unmonitored, this can quickly degrade to an unstable condition, culminating in a mushroom cloud of untold destruction and misery. Alas, in both nuclear reactions and humans, a chain reaction that makes it to this final stage damages others in the ‘fallout radius’ and often requires centuries before the surrounding area again becomes capable of sustaining human life.
Of the many ways in which feelings and nuclear reactors differ, however, one of the most important is the ease in which a ‘feelings disaster’ may be avoided. In humans, the critical step is simple to understand if not always easy to implement: recognizing and accepting that there is no such thing as ‘should’ or ‘should not’ when it comes to feelings.
To effectively manage our feelings, we should stop for a moment whenever we consciously recognize a new feeling and immediately remind ourselves that feelings are neither ‘right’ nor ‘wrong.’ Say something like this to yourself, aloud if circumstances allow: “My feelings are not inherently ‘good’ or ‘evil.’ Feelings say nothing at all about me or the kind of person I am. Whatever I am feeling does not at all speak about the kind of friend I am, my value as a student or co-worker, how good of a worshiper I am, or my worth as a parent or child.”
Feelings have nothing to do with who we are or our significance in the world. Feeling just are.
Feelings have nothing to do with who we are or our significance in the world. Feeling just are.
Although feelings are a component of every human being, we should constantly remind ourselves that we cannot control or manage the genesis of our feelings any more than we could have controlled or managed whether we were born — or the time, place, or date of our birth.
Once we recognize and accept the above, we can begin the practice of harnessing our feelings. Once we have observed and wielded our feelings purposefully, we begin to believe that our feelings can provide us enormous benefit. To continually unleash the power of feelings in the direction we wish, we must only take conscious control of them and manage their vast potential energy wisely.
Nuclear devastation or limitless energy?
No one can determine your personal ‘nuclear energy policy’ . . . except you. Our determination must begin with the conscious decision to quit judging our feelings, and to quit judging who we are or what our character is like, based upon the content of feelings we cannot initially control.
In his first letter to the Church Members of Corinth, Paul of Tarsus wrote “I am unconcerned what you think about me . . . or what other people think of me; indeed, I have come to the place where I do not even judge myself.” I Cor 4.3
Turn off the negative self-talk. Quit overvaluing what others’ think. Stop judging yourself based on your feelings. Like the Apostle Paul, once we discontinue the constant practice of judging ourselves, we will be shocked and amazed at how quickly we can then harness and utilize the atomic energy power of human feelings. Doing so provides us with an on-demand, and near-unlimited store of energy.
Energy that can and will propel you to accomplish whatever you must to find peace of mind. Peace of mind leads to pursuing your passion, which inexorably results in a fulfilling Life of Love and abundance.
To the fusion of energy and Love,
Readers and Scotty b., I know I owe you another part of the “Gatekeeper” series regarding “truth“…or the “Truth“… or is it “THE TRUTH“?? However, as I listened to a talk at my daughter’s school and read Scotty b.’s post yesterday, I feel more compelled to share the following with you, taken from an audio presentation by Charles Swindoll (emphasis supplied by me).
The longer I live,
the more I realize the importance of choosing the right attitude in life.
Attitude is more important than facts.
It is more important than your past;
more important than your education
or your financial situation;
more important than your circumstances,
your successes, or your failures;
more important than what other people think or say or do.
It is more important than your appearance,
your giftedness, or your skills.
It will make or break a company.
It will cause a church to soar or sink.
It will make the difference between a happy home or a miserable home.
You have a choice each day regarding the attitude you will embrace.
Life is like a violin.
You can focus on the broken strings that dangle,
or you can play your life’s melody on the one that remains.
You cannot change the years that have passed,
nor can you change the daily tick of the clock.
You cannot change the pace of your march toward your death.
You cannot change the decisions or reactions of other people.
And you certainly cannot change the inevitable.
Those are strings that dangle!
What you can do is play on the one string that remains— your attitude.
I am convinced that life
is 10 percent what happens to me
and 90 percent how I react to it.
The same is true for you.
~~Charles R. Swindoll
from my heart to yours,
“No great thing is created suddenly” – Epictetus, Greek stoic philosopher
The title of this post, Most Great Things Are Created by Small Daily Actions may seem to be in direct conflict with yesterday’s post, Become Successful Faster Than You Can Read This Post.
The point of yesterday’s post, however, is that you choose your definition of success. You choose whether to continue one more year, or month, or day, or even another minute with the negative self-talk that keeps you mired in mediocrity. Or whether you will choose to picture yourself as a success, which immediately changes your physiology, emotions and drive. That decision will catapult you to success in any area of your Life where you have made a 100% decision and commit to its attainment.
“No great thing is created suddenly” – Epictetus, Greek stoic philosopher
Once you have made that decision, however, it is important to recognize the Truth contained in the Epictetus quote above. Otherwise, it is tough to continue the forward momentum towards your dream Life once adversity strikes.
And adversity will strike.
But here is the thing, and it would be difficult to find anyone who has ever done anything great who would disagree: A consistent daily effort will get you where you want to be more surely — and usually more rapidly — than a Herculean, but sporadic and inconsistent, effort.
This is true whether the “Great Thing” involves improving your grades, becoming better at your career, learning a new sport or hobby, becoming a better friend or parent, getting closer to God, improving your health or body . . . or anything else worth spending your valuable time and effort on.
So make the decision of what you want. Get the vision of what attainment will look like crystal clear in your mind. Think of how you will feel and how it will change your life. Let those feelings flow through you. And then jot down a plan that incorporates consistent, hopefully daily, actions towards the attainment of that vision.
It will materialize faster than you can imagine.
To your daily greatness,