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“Surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.” E. Lee
“Surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.” -E. Lee
With whom do you surround yourself?
Do they encourage you? Do they support your dreams? Do they applaud your vision?
Is your life rich with friends who make their dreams become reality?
Would emulating your friends routines and habits make you a better or worse person?
“Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.” – John Kuebler
The people you spend the most time with are a commentary on who you are. If you don’t believe in yourself, you will surround yourself with others who do not. Yes, faith is a powerful concept. And, yet, we often forget that it is not only something applicable in relationship to a deity. We must have or acquire faith in ourselves and our own potential.
Otherwise, we will never become able to push ourselves to becoming all of which we are capable. Doing so would risk us being disappointed, and of disappointing others.
Instead, we opt to settle for a mediocre life.
The funny thing is: Mediocre is never mediocre.
When your potential is great (and what human life is not?), mediocre feels like great pain mixed with constant, quiet desperation, and smells a lot like a skunk’s back side.
If that sounds at all familiar, perhaps it is time to make a couple of important changes.
As the late, great, Jim Rohn was fond of saying: “You are the average of the five people with whom you spend the most time.” – Jim Rohn
Most people who are being honest with themselves will agree that Mr. Rohn’s saying is pretty much true. Think of its implications: it means if you would simply take the least encouraging of “The Five” and replace him or her with someone who is optimistic, encourages your dreams, applauds your vision, and works hard to make their ideas come true – that alone would radically change your life.
I am not saying to drop the least optimistic as a friend or shut them out of your life and never speak with them again. I am saying: perhaps a demotion of time allowing them to become the sixth-most time consuming person in your life . . . could change everything!
Isn’t it worth a try for a month or two?
Most of us had dreams in high school of conquering the world…and somewhere around our late 20s or early 30s we slowly starting letting go of our dreams. And now our “journey to the dark side seems complete.” We firmly play small, make excuses, and who knows when the last time I was actively and passionately pursuing one of my dreams.
Lucky for you, you aren’t Luke Skywalker or Darth Vader. The journey to the dark side . . . or any other side is NEVER complete. As long as you are breathing your journey is never complete – whether to the dark side or in becoming all you can be. There is nothing we can do today that is so good it guarantees our salvation. Conversely, there is nothing we can do so terrible, that we are damned forever.
That is the beauty of Life: Every day is a time to start afresh. An opportunity to become all we can be.
One thing that is important, though, is to take Jim Rohn’s message seriously. Who are the people that make you better? And who in your life drags you down? If you are serious about personal development, make the commitment to drop those that sink your self-esteem and confidence, those who constantly bring you drama instead of encouragement, and those who never do anything meaningful with their lives – at least ensure that you are not spending time with them in your top five time slots.
Instead, elevate your time spent with those who support you, love you, cherish the time you give them, and are fascinated by your vision for you, your community, and your world; and who are successful in the ways you wish to be successful.
But be forewarned: Only do this if you are really serious about wanting to improve. The change may shock you not only in terms of how much is possible, but how quickly, with just this one small tweak to your life.
To evolve and grow effortlessly, you need to surround yourself with those who see your potential and encourage you in the direction of your aspirations.
If you don’t think you have anyone in your circle of friends that will encourage you, then make ‘friends’ with people like Jim Rohn, Coach Corey Wayne, Anthony Robbins, Socrates, Jesus of Nazareth, etc. via books or YouTube until you draw people that uplift and encourage you into your life.
Don’t worry; they WILL come.
“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” – Buddhist Saying
What action(s) do you need to take to put this post’s ideas into practice?
- Find one person you wish to become more like.
- Acquire her book or follow her post or find his YouTube videos.
- Devote at least 20 minutes a day to reading/listening or spending time with your “new” friend for 30 days. Each day put ONE tip or idea into your daily life.
- Keep on enthusiastically practicing each item you have learned for the full thirty days, by which time it will likely be pretty much automatic.
- Say “Thank You” when people complement you on “the change they can’t put their finger on.”
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May you live long and in abundance,
J. Scot Blackburn, Esq.
Are you frustrated with your life? Are you tired of being unsatisfied, of struggling to make ends meet, the pain of a failed relationship, or ill-health? Why does it seem others live in abundance, but abundance fails to describe any area of your life? Have you given up on the vision you once had for your life?
What would you give to have your life instantly changed and to know you were on the path that would inevitably lead to all your hopes and dreams coming true?
What if you had to give almost nothing except a few minutes of your time each day?
Would you do it?
Here is the secret: Take a few minutes to reflect back on the dreams and desires you have given up on. Or think of new dreams, if you prefer. Clearly visualize the life of your dreams. Do NOT worry about the vision “being realistic.” Don’t let your past failures or limitations derail this image. Just take as long as it takes for you to visualize your “Perfect Life” — whatever that means to you.
Do you have that visualized? Or are you just continuing to read? What if the secret really is contained here? Are you so confident it is not, that you won’t take five minutes and think of your “Perfect Life”?
Good. Now make it sharper, clearer, more real. How would it look? How would you feel? What smells would be in your Perfect Life?
Once you have your “Perfect Life” firmly fixed in your mind, spend one or two more minutes to think of the person who you would be if you were living that life. How would you feel? How would you treat others? How would you carry yourself? What kind of car would you drive? How would you dress? Where would you live? How would you feel?
Let these emotions flow through you. If your posture tries to correct itself, allow it to do so. Take a couple of deep breaths.
Now intensify the feelings and emotions flowing through you.
Now, look at that amplified vision. How do you think of yourself? As you look at that “Highest Version of You” — the version of you if you were already living the Life of Your Dreams — ask yourself what would happen if you lived that thought every day from now on? What would you think? What would you speak? What would you say? How would you behave? What actions would you take? How would you treat the people in your life?
Is there a difference between the Highest Version of You and how you think, speak and behave now?
If your answer is yes; see and remember the differences . . . and consciously begin to change. Do this exercise once or twice a day and think, speak, and act like your Highest Self whenever you think of it during the day.
If you do not give up, you will see changes that will boggle your mind in less than 30 days. One month from today, keep doing this, and add an additional daily session. Focus on hourly checking in with yourself and determining if you are living as your hightest self. Don’t get frustrated if you failed in the past hour. Just get back on the wagon.
Ninety days from now your friends and family will all be amazed and will notice and comment upon the distinct change in just about every part of your life. Continue making this a priority, examining your thoughts and actions minute-by-minute. It should be almost second nature to you now. Think of how good that will make you feel. Think of how much you will be respected and admired. Visualize how much good you can do for your family, your community, your religion, and your favorite charity. Or, perhaps, you will have already taken steps to create your own charity.
Well before a full calendar year from now, you will barely recognize the person you have become.
It is impossible to follow this formula and not have achieved your dream life within five years.
Do it. Live your dreams. Accept the Life of Abundance that you have been promised. It is your birthright.
To your grandest vision,