Category Archives: Negative Emotions
NOTE: this is Part II. Click for Part III or Part IV. Click the following link to read Part I of this post: “Three Words Guaranteed to Instantly Banish Negative Emotions”
As we discussed in Part I, happiness is a constant when we are daily engaged in work that excites us, helps others, is worthy of our time and energy, and moves us towards achieving our Life Purpose. It is a fallacy to believe we are “less happy” or “unhappy” or even that our happiness fluctuates all that much. What is actually occurring is that our ability to feel that happiness is being dissipated or overcome by one or more of the “six negative” emotions — fear, self-pity, envy, jealousy, inferiority, and/or rage.
It is shockingly simple to remove the offending negative emotion(s) when we consciously identify that one or more of the “negative six” is interfering with our ability to experience happiness. Once we remove the negative emotion(s) we rapidly return to a state of happiness.
These “negative six” emotions are easy to identity and manage once you understand how they infiltrate our emotions. The “negative six” camouflage themselves and attempt to enter your psyche undetected inside a host container, which we will call a “Trojan Horse.”
(Referenced in Homer’s Odyssey, the Trojan Horse tale depicts the Greek army unsuccessfully besieging the city of Troy. For ten years, the virtually unassailable wall encircling Troy protected the city. Trojan warriors atop the wall could rain arrows down upon invaders while virtually no return fire could reach them. After a decade, the Greek general, Odysseus, had enough. Odysseus ordered his army to construct a trophy acknowledging Troy’s battle superiority: a gigantic, beautiful, wooden horse. After building the Horse, the entire Greek army sailed away in defeat. The elated Trojans pulled the colossal horse into their city and the celebration began! The victory was hollow, however, because the horse was hollow, too. Under cover of darkness, the Grecian soldiers hiding inside crept out and opened the gates for the Greek army — who had sailed back to Troy under cover of darkness. The Greek army entered the city and easily defeated the partied-out city of Troy.
Today, we use the metaphor “Trojan Horse” to describe a ploy where a victim is duped into allowing something unwanted into a susceptible region. Trojan Horse viruses, for instance, infiltrate computers by hiding inside apparently useful software or email. Once the malicious program slips past the computer’s defenses, however, the rogue binary code is unleashed.)
How many of us would choose to feel fearful, jealous, or inferior if these emotions just rolled up to us, announced their presence, and asked to be let into our psyche? “Hell, no!” we would scream as we rained arrows down from our elevated position, easily defeating them.
The “negative six” emotions rarely come at us openly and directly for just this reason. They, like Odysseus’ army, utilize Trojan Horses instead. But Trojan Horses are easily defeated because they rely on a complete lack of perception on the part of their victim to have any chance of success. Had a single soldier in Troy recognized the trap, the result would have been much different. Instead of the destruction of Troy, Troy would have easily captured two dozen of Greece’s finest warriors. This result would have also ended the war — but with Troy the victor!
You, too, can easily be victorious when facing negative emotions. All that is required is remaining watchful for potential Trojan Horses. Negative emotions only employ four basic types of Trojan Horses. Once you are aware of these four, you will be able to instantly spot them trying to infiltrate your emotions and rob you of your peace of mind and happiness.
The Four Trojan Horses of Emotional Apocalypse
1. Justification. A human’s default setting is happiness. I can only experience negative emotions for the length of time that I tell myself I am entitled to feel them. The moment I quit justifying the negative emotion is the moment it the moment it is expelled. Soon, my happiness has “miraculously” returned. Be a ruthless landlord of your emotions. As soon as you notice some unsavory characters hanging around the apartment complex of your heart, mind and soul – begin the eviction process by examining why you are justifying the emotion(s). Try to remember that you are the one feeling crappy; not the event, situation, or other person. Do you really want to continue feeling fearful or inferior or rage, while they remain completely unaffected? Remove the justification, and you remove the negative emotion(s) automatically.
2. Rationalization. When I rationalize, I am trying to offer a socially-acceptable reason for my unacceptable behavior. That is all I am doing. I am making up an elaborate fairy tale in my head in hopes it will excuse my poor behavior. Even if this worked, it is a lot of energy expended to explain my ill-actions . . . even though I still know that I am wrong. What is worse, though, is that it never works. People always see through our elaborate rationalizations. So don’t waste your time and energy. If you were in the wrong, just admit it. Your happiness is at stake here, remember?
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To your happiness,
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We all want to be happy. We intuitively understand that the positive emotion of happiness is a by-product of living a purposeful, productive, fulfilling life. And, this, in turn, produces a life abundant with peace of mind, joy, truth, and love. You probably also know that if you are living a purposeful, productive life there are only six basic barriers to happiness: the negative emotions of fear, self-pity, envy, jealousy, inferiority, and rage.
The six basic barriers to happiness are the negative emotions of fear, self-pity, envy, jealousy, inferiority, and rage.
We often envision happiness in terms of it fluctuating up and down like the temperature outdoors. But that is an inaccurate model of how humans actually experience happiness. Once a human is purposefully engaged in a productive venture — happiness exists. If you feel that your work helps others and is worthy of your daily effort — your happiness does not fluctuate much at all. What is actually happening when I feel less happy than normal is that I am concurrently experiencing one or more of the “negative six emotions.” These negative emotions cause us to feel less happy than we normally do. When we allow ourselves to feel one or more of the “negative six” more powerfully than our happiness, we describe that result as ‘feeling unhappy.’ But the happiness is still there in the background, just as it always is. We simply cannot feel it since we are choosing to experience the negative emotions more intensely at that time. To return to the state of happy, then, all that is necessary is to remove the negative emotion(s) interfering with our ability to feel, experience, and appreciate our happiness.
Removing Negative Emotions
O.K., that sounds good in theory. But removing negative emotions is much more difficult in reality, correct? I mean, it is much tougher to remove a negative emotion than just follow the simplistic advice we are often given to “just think positively.” Right? We cannot just say a few magic words and have negative emotions disappear as easily as a magician waves his wand through the air. Isn’t that true? Well, actually; no. It is that simple. That is all that is required. A few magic words and perhaps an ‘abra-cadabra.’ Or an ‘a la kazam’. ‘Voila!’ If you prefer. And the negative emotions are gone. Banished. Ejected. Vanquished. Expelled. Removed. Guaranteed! It doesn’t require faith in a certain deity, a visit to your therapist, changing to a paleo diet, meditating every day, or drinking more water. (Although there is little question all of these will help. They will certainly curtail a ton of the “negative six emotions” from arising in the first place!)
So what are the three magic words guaranteed to instantly evict the unwelcome negative emotions squatting in the apartment of your mind? To find out, come back here tomorrow to read “Three Words Guaranteed to Immediately Banish Negative Emotions, Part II” or click the “follow” button at the top on the right to be notified each time we post something new.
To your success,
I want to thank Dawnmarie Presley, C.Ht., for spending her valuable time reviewing this series of posts and for sharing her depth of knowledge and insightful comments on this important topic with us. Her wisdom greatly enhanced the clarity and insightfulness of this series. Ms. Presley is an incredible hypnotherapist. Her clients rave about the changes she immediately ushers into their lives. If you want to make lasting changes but haven’t had the success you desire thus far – contact Dawnmarie now at 818.217.6176 or HypnoticOffice@gmail.com. She usually helps new clients experience immediate and permanent change in a session or two. Don’t live in Los Angeles? It doesn’t matter: Ms. Presley provides telephone sessions that are equally effective as her in-office visits. Call Dawnmarie now and get your life back on track today!